Where the women who put everyone else first come home to themselves.
Learn the patterns, heal the parts who settled for it, and build a life you love, side by side with the women who get it.
A free video lesson + somatic practice, instant access. No card, no spam.
Trusted in rooms that don't suffer fluff.
Steffi has taught, facilitated, and spoken for:
Summit · Kajabi · YPO · EO · The Portal · Deloitte
You can name every red flag but you're still not free.
That's not an information problem.
The pattern that keeps you saying yes while your body says no doesn't live in your mind. You most likely know everything you need to know to change it. But this pattern lives in your nervous system, trained there by a version of love that needed you to regulate others' emotions, a love that had to be earned through giving more and needing less.
That's why understanding hasn't healed it yet for you, and why my work is body first: somatic practices, nervous system regulation, and the inner work, the shadow work, where all of your parts are held with compassion and zero shame.
I'm Steffi Seefeld, a trauma-informed somatic coach. I've walked this road myself, the hard way, and I've now walked it with over 1,200 women. One thing I know for certain: none of it is your fault, and all of it is your opportunity to break the cycle and finally change, when you're ready for it.
The Work Has Shape.
The Liberation Journey
01Know their patterns.
Study what happened until "am I crazy?" becomes "I know exactly what this was." Yes, learning their narcissistic patterns takes up a lot of your energy for a while. That's not obsession, that's the medicine you need. Because what it gives you: confidence, safety, protection, and the beginning of self-trust.
02Know your patterns.
When you are ready, you get to ask yourself the braver question: which part of me believed the breadcrumbs were the best I could get? Now we meet those younger parts who are still in the driver's seat with compassion, not shame, and become the parent we needed. What it gives you: liberation from codependency and a completely new way of living and loving.
03Create a new life.
The blank canvas almost nobody talks about: who do I want to be, and what does a life I love actually look like? You stop abandoning yourself, and life starts matching the woman you're becoming. What it gives you: a life you are in love with.
Underneath all three: your nervous system, expanding its capacity for grief, rage, and, sometimes hardest of all, the joy. One step at a time, one breath at a time, together.
Start free, or step in deeper. Every door is here for you.
START FREE
The free myth video.
One belief, the hope that you'll be the exception, loosened in one short video with a somatic practice included.
Done Surviving.
My free live 90-minute masterclass, next on August 8. Somatic, interactive. Replay for 72 hours.
GO DEEPER
NOT YOUR FAULT. NOT YOUR FUTURE.
The most comprehensive course I wish I had on healing from narcissistic relationships. Somatic practices woven throughout the 80 lessons, 1 to 5 minutes each, finally connecting the dots between your experience and their strategic patterns.
"All I can say is WOW. This is so eye-opening. Thank you." — Brenda S.
THE WHOLE LOAF
Monthly live calls with me and women who are so f*cking done with settling for the breadcrumbs, who truly get you. Member spaces for support and celebration between the calls, and women who become sisters for a lifetime. $47/month.
"I never want these calls to end, they are my favorite part of the month. I love you all." — Kathleen F.
RISING WOMEN PROGRAM
Six months of profound transformation, from stuck in your patterns into freedom and actual change, within you and all around you. The most time with me of anything I offer, in a small circle, by application only. This is also where 1-on-1 lives.
"It wasn't just mindset coaching, it was nervous system work, it was somatic healing... real, feel-it-in-your-body healing." — Liv M.
1-DAY RETREATS
One day immersed in the redwood trees by the ocean. Themes vary between the most common ones: rage, grief, joy. We breathe together, move together, cook together, hold each other and elevate each other. By application only.
"What surprised me the most was the relief I felt after the rage exercise. I didn't realize how much I had suppressed and how much lighter I feel now." — Katie A.
1-ON-1 COACHING
Bespoke, limited, and retainer-only. For situations that are intricate, layered, or simply ask for focussed intention and pacing only one-on-one work can provide.
For the woman who knows what's happening but can't get out of it alone without drowning; the dynamic with a romantic partner, parent, sibling, or business partner, or dating the same "type". She needs full attention to get to the core of it and out of it, healthily.
Some of the healing happens alone, but it doesn't have to be lonely.
You deserve the whole f*cking loaf.
You've spent years settling for the bread crumb in love, at work, with your family, in your whole life. For as long as you can remember you kept the hope of "someday they will consider my needs and wishes, too," and it slowly but surely exhausted you. This community is named for the end of that. Inside: monthly live calls with me, practices and tools you can apply immediately, member spaces where the 11pm "am I crazy" posts get answered by women who know, and friendships with people you never have to explain yourself to.
$47 per month, or $470 per year.
By application, to keep this room safe, compassionate, and what it is.
Cancel anytime, no guilt trip (you've had enough of those in your life).
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I've been you, the hard way.
I'm a trauma-informed somatic coach who looked, on paper, like someone who has it all figured out. While I was training leaders globally on compassion and transformation, I was also the woman getting up at 5 AM to make quesadillas for a man who had given her just another silent treatment after gaslighting her the night before. I was apologizing for finding another woman's underwear in his drawers.
I didn't just study my way out (I tried, though... it didn't work). I tended to my fried nervous system and kept regulating it into safety so that I could heal and liberate myself all the way. And that missing piece became this work: trained in modalities taught by Dr. Joe Dispenza (creating change from the inside out), Teal Swan (shadow integration), Tony Robbins (transformation), Gabor Maté (healing trauma), Dan Brulé (breathwork), and Dr. Ramani (narcissism), brought into rooms from YPO and EO to Deloitte and Summit, and now walked with over 1,200 women.
What I believe, and what I watch come true: pleasure, safety, and joy aren't the reward at the end of healing. They're your default. We're just learning to feel safe to receive it all.
My story and my work, in 90 seconds →
For podcasts, stages, and events
Bring this work to your audience.
I speak where psychology meets the body: why insight alone doesn't set people free, and what actually rewires the patterns underneath narcissistic relationships and people pleasing. I bring the lived story, the trained craft, and something most guests can't: a somatic experience where your audience feels a shift in their own bodies live, and can't stop talking about it for months.
Signature Topics:
You Cannot Out-Think a Nervous System
Done Surviving: The Three Phases of the Liberation Journey
Retiring the People Pleaser
Pleasure, Safety, and Joy as the Default
Not Without the Shadow: The Path of Real change
Rooms I've worked with include:
Summit, Kajabi, YPO, EO, The Portal, Deloitte, TOA, and OSRAM
INVITE STEFFI →A short note about your audience and format is all it takes. I'll answer personally.
To Be. In Love. With Life.
It's that simple thing. Not once you've earned it. It's your birthright, and there's a room full of women ready to walk you there.
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